This week, my co-worker was engrossed in telling me a story about something that happened to her.
I could see and hear the passion. Her face and tone said it all.
I was listening intently, and she ended a sentence with “Fuck.”
Her eyes got big and she paused, as if she said something wrong.
I didn’t know what happened. I was confused.
She quickly blurted out, “Pardon my french.”
I looked at her, busted out laughing, and said, “Are you kidding? I swear all the time. No worries.”
She then relaxed and finished her story.
This has happened to me so many times, and I never understand. Who cares if someone swears?
I don’t care if you drop every single swear word under the sun in one long-winded sentence. You are expressing yourself and ridding yourself of the toxic thoughts you are experiencing.
An article from mentalfloss.com discusses 6 reasons why swearing is good for you. I fell in LOVE with this article. One of my favorite things they discussed is they found that people who swear more don’t tell as many lies.
To me, how is that a bad thing? I want to talk to more honest people, not ones that are going to lie to me.
Who am I to judge and scoff at how you express yourself?
Some people write. Some people get a tattoo.
Some people love to swear.
And I’m totally fine with that. Sometimes, we feel so strongly about a certain topic or event in our life that we can only use swear words to describe how we feel.
Those awesome little words that we can sprinkle throughout our sentences to release our frustration, or our happiness, depending on the situation.
Sometimes, there are not enough ‘proper’ words to describe a strong emotion we are feeling.
I have also found that people who openly swear and embrace that fact about themselves are more confident and outgoing.
They are not afraid to express themselves. They are not scared to rock the boat.
They are not afraid to show someone their true self.
Nowadays, people are so concerned about offending others with what they say and do.
I say fuck it.
If someone is offended by the words coming out of my mouth, and they aren’t even directed at them, I ask, “What is the problem?”
Why do people have such an issue with swear words?
To be honest, I don’t want to be around people where I have to censor myself. That is not my idea of a good time.
Now, if I know ahead of time that you are someone that doesn’t like swearing, I will do my best to control myself.
However, there are no promises there.
Because if I had a dollar for every single time I have expressed to people in my life what I wish they wouldn’t do, and they do it anyway, I would be pretty damn rich.
And I wouldn’t have to worry about my car payment every month. Let me just say that.
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t swear in front of kids because they have their whole lives to learn the ways of the land when it comes to swear words.
I also don’t swear in front of older people, out of respect. But if they swear while talking to me, then I’m going to assume they don’t mind, and I will resume being my normal self.
Now, before people jump down my throat, I’m not saying that we should walk into our bosses office and swear at them.
But what I am saying, is that after a bad day of work, it is not a bad idea to go get a drink and let some swear words fly as you describe your day. To me, that is healthy and an excellent way to relieve tension.
There are all kinds of ways to express ourselves, and why should we limit ourselves just because someone might be offended? Or just because we grew up with our parents telling us that it was disrespectful, and that nice girls don’t swear.
Ugh. Don’t even get me started on that last part.
I have had more authentic and entertaining conversations with people who drop f-bombs than people who are tiptoeing around the possibility of offending me.
The fear of offending people, to the point where it changes who you are, pisses me off.
Who is anyone to tell us how to express ourselves, how to speak, or how to act? Hell no.
Do you and if someone doesn’t like it, they can leave.